10 myths about relationships. Total absurdity.
There are some myths about relationships that you can hear from your family or friends, read in the magazine or watch in the TV, that are total bullshit.
We are tired of hearing the same nonsenses all over again. We have gathered the most popular of them and created a list of 10 myths about relationships.
1. You have to be lucky to be lucky in the relationship.
It’s not a matter of luck, but of hard work. You have to search for your dream partner. Relationship is not a coincidence.
For example me and Patryk- we met on the NLP training. We both knew we love self development and we want to be very successful in the future.
Training was the perfect place for us to meet. We would never be together if we hadn’t been in the right place and time.
2. ‘Everything will work out somehow’.
NOTHING will be OK if you don’t work hard on your relationship. If something goes wrong, you both need to fix it as soon as possible.
Don’t wait until it will be too late.
Good relationships don’t just happen. They take time, patience and two people who truly want to be together.
3. Everyone has their secrets.
If, just like Bridget Jones, you secretly smoke and hide it from your partner, it’s not a big deal. It’s just a little and harmless secret.
But if you are sick, you got fired or had an affair and your partner doesn’t know about it, it’s REALLY bad.
The clue to the good relationship is honesty. No matter how hard it is, the truth is always better than the lie.
4. Cheating before the marriage does not count.
I am sure you must have heard this sometime. It’s a bullshit.
Marriage doesn’t change anything. If someone cheated before, it’s very likely that he will do it again in the future.
5. It is impossible to be with one person for a lifetime.
It’s HARD but not impossible.
Of course it’s easier to just run away when something goes wrong. But the thing is to stay and overcome adversity together with your partner.
6. Love expires with the time.
The true love never ends.
It changes, but not expires.
Of course, after few years you won’t be as crazy about your partner, as in the begining of your relationship. But is this really all about butterflies in your stomach?
The most important things are trust, friendship and intimacy. And they are always getting better with a time.
7. ‘I attract bad people’.
Yeah, right. You are unhappy, lost and unhappy.
It’s a bullshit! Relationship is never a matter of coincidence, but of CHOICE.
You have to choose a person to be with her. It’s your decision. ALWAYS.
8. ‘I have no luck in love’.
Bad things happen. You can have an unpleasant experience, but never give up.
There must be someone out there for you. Never stop looking for him/her.
9. ‘Nobody wants me.
… because I am (stupid/ ugly/ fat/ worthless…)’. Choose whatever you want- it’s all FALSE.
Every single on of us is perfect on its own, very special way. You are attractive to many people. Just BELIEVE in yourself. This is the key to success.
10. ‘I will be with anyone just to avoid being lonely’.
It’s sad that not being lonely is a reason to be in a relationship…
Being with someone you don’t want to be hurts you, this person and people around you. Remember: there’s nothing bad with being alone.