Why relationships fail? 10 things you did wrong.
You met a dream guy (or girl), your first date is amazing. You are more and more into her/ him. Everything seems to be perfect, you have so much in common. You can talk for hours, have fun and spend awesome time together. You start to believe that it may be a love for a lifetime. And then something bad happen. Sometimes it comes all of sudden and sometimes it’s a slow process of moving away to each other. What went wrong? What’s the reason it didn’t work out again? Why relationships fail?
One of the main reasons why relationships fail is lack of communication. If you don’t talk to each other, you can’t possibly be close. You have to talk about good and bad things, you have to truly be honest with each other.
The worst thing that you can do in a relationship is to built it on something unstable like appearances. The more you talk with your partner, the closer you are to each other. You are building something strong and special. If you fail to do so, you have a very little chance that this relationship will last for a lifetime.
#2 You had too many secrets
It’s ok to have some privacy, even in a relationship. But keeping too many secrets can destroy even the strongest bound. Some things just cannot be hidden, especially when they are very meaningful.
Every relationships deserves honesty and trust.
#3 You didn’t match
It’s as simple as that. Sometimes people are too different to be together. They have different priorities, values, beliefs.
At the beginning, it may seem that you found your other half, that you were made for each other. But then, the reality shows you are totally different. In some cases that why relationships fail.
I know some bounds that are built on differences but it takes a lot of effort, patience and understanding to make them last forever. Even though these people seem to be totally unlike, they have many things in common. I am talking about core values, like beliefs or life goals.
Let me give you an example: if your partner don’t want kids and you were always dreaming about a big family, you have a very little chance to built a lifelong relationship. You are just too different to make it work.
It’s great to talk about these core things at the beginning, to avoid disappointments after years of being together.
#4 You chose the wrong person to be with
I know a woman that have always had a soft spot for bad guys. When she was a high school girl, she wanted to find a boyfriend that is currently in jail (!). She heard of a man who had been put in a prison recently. She wrote a letter to him and their romance began. Even though everyone said that she shouldn’t be with him, she made a conscious choice to marry him.
He beat her, cheated on her and he was an addictive alcoholic. They had 2 kids. Their son is currently in jail, he is just like his father.
I am not making this out, it’s a real story. I know these people personally.
The woman was very unhappy for years until her husband passed away. Her troubles didn’t end afterwards because she was (and still is) afraid of her aggressive son. I am sorry for her but on the other hand I know she consciously chose this path.
You shouldn’t always listen to other people but when everyone is telling you that you should not be with your partner, try to consider their opinion. Maybe they are right?
A real relationship requires commitment. You can’t think only about yourself anymore. Now it’s time to think about your partner as well. If you are not ready for this, you can’t build a strong bound.
To avoid disappointments, you should talk about the priorities at the beginning of a relationship. If you need a lot of personal space, tell your partner about it straight away. The sooner you set the rules, the more likely you will be happy together. Be honest and be sure you know what you want to. Don’t expect that your partner will be just like you. You will encounter many differences but if you really love each other, you can make it work.
Don’t jump into a relationship if you are not ready for this. It’s better to be single than to hurt someone else’s feelings.
#6 You weren’t honest at the beginning
Honesty is a clue to a lifelong relationship. It’s the crucial thing if you want to build a strong bound.
Don’t pretend to be someone else, sooner or later your partner will find out the truth. Stop listening to the stupid dating rules that you need to behave in a specific way. BE YOURSELF! It’s the sexiest thing on Earth. There is no other person like you in this world. Copies are always worse than the originals, so don’t try to be like someone else. Act naturally, be confident. You have nothing to be ashamed about. You are beautiful and special, no matter how you look like or what is your story.
#7 You didn’t spend enough time together
Life is though. Sometimes you are too busy with your work and everyday duties that you don’t have a time to your partner. It’s ok for a while but things like that can’t last for too long.
Everyday you move away from your partner. It’s very easy to go TOO FAR. Sometimes it’s very difficult to find a way back. Be caution because it’s very hard to rebuild a bound. In some cases, it’s even impossible. Remember that distance is the very common reason why relationships fail
You should listen to your friends and family and consider their opinion. But you should never let them decide for you. It’s your life and your choices.
Remember that there are only two people in a relationship, so take care of your privacy. Your friends shouldn’t know everything about your partner. Some things just should stay between two of you.
Your besties are always biased, so their opinion is not always right. If you always talk bad about your partner, they will start to dislike him/her. And you don’t really want that, do you?
#9 You relationship wasn’t balanced
The perfect relationship is when you get as much as you give. If you are sacrificing too much and get nothing in return, then it’s just not healthy. If you feel that you are being taken for granted, talk to your partner. And start thinking about yourself and your needs. Demand attention, you deserve it.
On the other hand, if you feel that your partner is too good to you, don’t think it will last forever. Make him/ her happy. Their needs are just important as yours.
#10 It was boring
Last but not least- boredom. It’s the big reason why relationships fail. If you want the bound to last forever, be interesting! Take care of yourself, don’t stop learning new things. Invest in self-development. Be the person you were before starting a relationship.
There is nothing more sexy than a partner full of energy and with many hobbies.